The father of three was finding it difficult to manage without his wife.
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He and his children were grieving her recent death. But on top of that, she had been the one who did the cooking, who helped the kids get ready in the morning.
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For marriage and family therapist Virginia Moreno, who treats people experiencing bereavement and trauma in Santa Barbara County, California, this wasnât a problem that could be solved in the clinic. So she did what she so often does: She took extra steps to help her patient cope, in this case teaching the widowed father how to cook a few simple dishes, brush his daughterâs hair, and make the beds.
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âYou just go that extra mile, because there were three surviving children,â Moreno said. âWe did all the survival skills.â
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For nearly 14 years, Moreno has worked as a clinical therapist at the nonprofit Hospice of Santa Barbara, working with patients who have lost loved ones. The care she provides is often relatively short-term, focused on helping patients process their grief and build coping skills to help them continue on.
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Now Moreno will be providing bereavement therapy at the Savie Clinic, a free clinic in north Santa Barbara County, in addition to her work for Hospice of Santa Barbara. There, sheâll work with as many as 50 patients confronting trauma or grief. The expansion of her work was funded through the Community Routes: Access to Mental Health Care program, a partnership with Teva Pharmaceuticals, the National Association of Free and Charitable Clinics, and Direct Relief. Savie Clinic received $150,000 over two years to expand their mental health services and outreach.
âItâs being able to provide a safe place for clients to share their stories, without judgment, without added stress,â she said. âYouâre creating a safety net and [they know] that thereâs someone whoâs interested in walking this path with them.â
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Moreno didnât always plan on being a bereavement therapist. She went to college expecting to become a private investigator. But then she took a psychology class, and fell in love. She also saw a high need for mental health services in her Latino community, and was concerned about the stigma she saw community members holding toward psychology and mental health care.
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âI thought, âMaybe if I look like them and talk like them, I can help them,ââ she recalled. âI felt a yearning and a calling for that.â

Santa Barbara County is famous for its natural beauty and elaborate mansions, but the area is rife with inequity and income disparities, particularly in the northern part of the county, which has historically had little in the way of affordable health care.
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That changed in 2022, when physician Ahmad Nooristani saw the extraordinary need for medical services in north Santa Barbara County, and founded Savie Clinic in the city of Lompoc, to provide free health care for uninsured patients.
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Savieâs leaders first became aware of the urgent need for bereavement therapy in their community when a young patient died suddenly from an illness last year. As Savieâs staff worked to organize support for the boyâs family, they began to hear other stories of patients losing family members suddenly, whether from murder, suicide, car accidents, or natural causes.
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âHearing more of these stories made my hope to partner with Hospice increase,â said former Savie executive director Eryn Shugart, who is now a grant writer, in an email to Direct Relief.
Shugart said Moreno was a natural choice to provide the expanded services: âShe is bilingual and bicultural, and 90% of our patients speak Spanish only. She is also an excellent and experienced clinician.â
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For Moreno, it was an opportunity to bring an essential treatment to an underserved population.âšâI was excited because I know that north county doesnât get a lot of services,â she explained. âWe donât turn anyone away.â
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But the care itself is familiar. âThe subject is the same. Itâs death and dying,â Moreno said. âThis is what grief looks likeâŠTheyâre brave enough to come in and fall apart, and then pull themselves together again.â

In Morenoâs experience, many members of Santa Barbara Countyâs Spanish-speaking population need mental health care, but theyâre afraid of reaching out, and aware of the stigma. Part of her work is helping her patients understand and process the fear theyâre feeling. âWhatever emotions youâre feeling, itâs normal,â she tells patients.
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Ultimately, Morenoâs goal is to give the people who seek her help the tools they need to work through grief, trauma, and other emotional pain in their lives.
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âTheyâre going to learn coping skills,â she said. âSo when they get triggered, or they feel like the world is falling apart, theyâre going to draw on their coping skills.â